Help my marriage dream says dying mum Ashlee
11:19am Thursday 14th February 2013 in News
A YOUNG mum who has been given just 18 months to live is planning her wedding and her funeral at the same time.
Ashlee Meecham, aged 29, has breast cancer which has spread to her bones, leading to tumours in her shoulder, arm, spine, pelvis, leg, liver and lungs.
She has been told the illness is terminal, and now she hopes to squeeze as much as possible into the last months of her life and build lasting memories for her three-year-old daughter, Miley.
Top of the list is marrying her long-term boyfriend, Neil Disley, aged 29, and they plan to travel to Paris tomorrow to get engaged.
But she is also organising her own funeral and has looked at coffins as well as making a list of songs to play.
Miss Meecham, of Hereford Crescent, Little Lever, said: “In a way I wish I didn’t know, but at least I have the chance to say what I need to do and what I have to do before I die.
“I’ve been trying to take pressure off Neil by organising things.”
She added: “The only things I wanted to do in my life were be a mum and get married.
“I have been with my boyfriend since I was 13 and it will seal the deal for me. He’s always been the love of my life.”
They plan to get married at Stanley House in Preston on May 12 and paid their deposit on Saturday.
But the couple are seeking help to cover the cost of the wedding and Miss Meecham is struggling to get a dress for her big day, as she has been told it would take six months to make.
Miss Meecham was diagnosed with breast cancer in April, 2010, just six months after giving birth to Miley.
She had a mastectomy and further treatment, but when she had a sore back, arm and leg, she returned to the hospital last month and was told the cancer had spread.
Doctors say her medication will not stop the cancer.
She hopes to survive for her 30th birthday in April and to see her daughter start school in September.
She would also like to go on a family holiday and do a tandem skydive before she dies.
Miss Meecham said: “I want to build memories for my daughter. I’m scared that she will forget me. I want to cram as many different things in.
“My little girl is everything to me. I know she will have a nice life without me, but no one will love her like me.”
Anyone able to help with Ashlee and Neil’s wedding can contact them by e-mailing firstname.lastname@example.org
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