Domestic abuse man tells of life as a victim
A FATHER seriously injured when his partner smashed a glass on his head has encouraged other men to report domestic violence.
The man, who does not want to be identified, said he felt relieved when his then girlfriend injured him, as he knew it would end the abuse.
The final straw was when the woman struck him on the head with a Champagne flute, resulting in him needing 11 stitches.
He also had to have four stitches to his elbow although he does not know what the woman used to cause the injury.
He said: “A police officer asked me how I felt because I was bleeding and I told him I felt relieved because she had finally done something that meant it had come to an end.
“It got to the point where I was miserable, I wasn’t happy.
“I stayed in the relationship because we have a child.
“I didn’t go out anywhere, I didn’t see any friends.
“When she hit me I thought it wasn’t too bad then realised there was blood.”
He said the incident came after a day of bickering over trivial matters.
The man said he could never do anything right and if he made a decision to go out rather than stay in she would say it was because he did not want to be seen out with her.
He said he put initial tell-tale signs of her jealousy and numerous threats of leaving the relationship down to insecurities.
She made numerous calls to the police, one where she claimed he had pushed her.
But no action was taken as he reacted in self defence after he had been hit and kicked.
He said: “I started to go to the football just to get out of the house and be in a place where I could shout at the match with a crowd.
“I didn’t want to antagonise her any more but I didn’t want her to walk all over me.
“I knew that when she hit me it was domestic violence but I didn’t think the emotional stuff was too.”
He said he would make her packed lunches and meals and buy her clothes because she hated shopping but she would tell people he was controlling her.
Other incidents included his partner threatening to stab him and her reporting a disturbance.
She was sentenced for inflicting grievous bodily harm on her partner after admitting the offence.
She received a community order.
He said: “I didn’t want her to go to prison or to get a big fine but I am disappointed as I wanted her to have anger management to address her issues.”
He said there was help available for men who are victims of domestic violence.
“There’s a big stigma attached to men being victims of domestic violence.
“If a man is hit by a woman it feels like a bit of a dent in a man’s ego,” he said.