Couple face backlash after becoming surrogate parents for gay couple

The Bolton News: Paul and Donna Boardman Paul and Donna Boardman

A COUPLE’S dream of having a baby has come true thanks to the mum who carried their bundle of joy for them.

Donna Boardman, Leigh’s only known surrogate mum, gave birth to a boy after volunteering to carry a child for a gay couple she had only met months before — despite facing a backlash from friends.

She said: “We’ve lost some friends but gained some new ones. People have told me they don’t understand how I could give away my baby but what they don’t understand was that it was never mine.”

Mrs Boardman, along with husband Paul, endured blood tests, psychological assessments and IVF before she fell pregnant using sperm from one of the dads and a donor egg.

The 35-year-old said: “I wanted to be pregnant but I didn’t want any more children — the ones I have are enough of a handful.

“We started looking into it and signed up with an agency in London.

“We were matched with a couple almost straightaway but the first round of IVF didn’t take and the second ended in a miscarriage.”

Mrs Boardman was then matched with a same sex couple and on February 17 James was born six weeks early by caesarean section, weighing 3lb 8oz at Wigan Infirmary.

She said: “I would recommend it but then it isn’t for everyone. For me, we both got what we wanted from it — I wanted to be pregnant and they wanted a baby.

“I didn’t think it would be so traumatic but then it was an amazing experience. It was worth it for the look on their faces when they met baby James.

“I was upset afterwards. My body was expecting me to have a baby but I didn’t — but that only lasted about 24 hours and then I was fine.

Mrs Boardman, a housewife, says she would not have been able to do it without her husband or the support of her three children, 15-year-old Joshua, Christopher, aged 13 who both attend Lowton High School and 11-year-old Leigh CE Junior School pupil Natasha.

Mr Boardman said: “It involved a lot more than we expected it to, I took time off work, sometimes unpaid, to go to London or for appointments, but I am very proud of Donna.

“The guys were great, in fact when James was born they came rushing to Donna to make sure she was okay before they went to see him.”

Mr and Mrs Boardman, who did not benefit financially from the surrogacy except for expenses, receive regular updates and pictures from the couple.

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